NeuroSparkle

Where to Start

Whether you’ve been struck by limerent for the first time or have dealt with this emotional torture on and off for decades, I want you to TRULY understand that you can and will recover completely. It’s completely achievable for any limerent to both get over their limerent object (LO) AND never suffer from agonising unrequited love again.

This can only be achieved by a) meeting your unique emotional needs (specific to your brain, personality and preferences!) and b) reprogramming your subconscious mind, such that you become a superior, limerence-immune version of yourself that CAN’T be drawn in by someone else in such a drug-like way. I’ve written nearly 100 free posts here designed to help you adopt the attitude you’ll need to accomplish this, which I’d love you to browse in your own time.

I’ve also poured my heart and soul into creating some truly unique resources for you. They’re designed to tackle limerence at its root causes and rewire your subconscious mind – helping you achieve limerence immunity as a natural side effect.

You Can Re-Write the Script

Because it’s so emotional by nature, limerence causes you to waste time, energy and money on ‘quick fixes’ that don’t work. My mission is to offer you the most value I possibly can, through an abundance of free content and a few high-quality, rigorously designed recovery tools.

Powerful Limerence Resources

1) To get started, check out my THREE books on limerence here and here and here; they’ve helped thousands of people recover from limerence, contain all the practical information you need to know, and are great fun to read.

2) If you’d like to get the ball rolling fast and start feeling better, I recommend my effective hypnosis-style meditations sessions: my main ‘anti-limerence’ mediation and special question affirmations designed to make you feel wonderful & get your subconscious mind seeing your situation differently

3) Consider grabbing my 99 affirmations for limerence recovery here. However, while my books and hypnosis tapes are essential tools for limerence recovery, these affirmations are just a helpful addition. Feel free to create your own emotive affirmations instead! 🙂

Supplements I Recommend?

I am a firm believer that supplements tend to be unnecessary; by eating a mainly healthy, wholefoods based diet (whether vegetarian or omnivorous), we acquire most of what we need. However, it’s simultaneously true that a) our soil is depleted and we acquire less of certain minerals than we used to and b) there is strong evidence to suggest that a few key supplements can benefit conditions like limerence. I say like, because there’s a real lack of neuroscientific research into the condition itself. But when we consider comorbities like anxiety, depression and OCD, and what’s helpful for them, a few things become clear:

–Magnesium is very important! I suggest taking it daily, 1 hour before bed. The upper limit is around 350mg/day of elemental magnesium, but feel free to start (and stay) low. I only take 90-180mg/day, and feel it benefits my sleep, mood and nervous system. Magnesium is needed by all of us, but it’s especially wonderful for women’s physical and emotional health.

–CBD: If you want something to ‘take the edge off’ and help you snap out of rumination and/or wind down even more before bed, CBD can be great. I don’t recommend taking it daily, since a little secret a lot of companies won’t tell you is that the brain habituates to anything psychoactive that has an effect and starts rewiring itself a little. Meaning, you might eventually become slightly dependent on CBD to feel calm/sleep well. That would be reversible and totally not dangerous at low-moderate doses, by the way. But my bit of advice as a neuroscientist would be: stop your brain predicting when you’re taking something like CBD by only taking it when needed/a few times a month. But I’m also very cautious and conscientious, so feel free to take more risks than me! 🙂

–NAC: This is a brilliant antioxidant compound, with growing bodies of research showing it effectively treats different conditions involving compulsivity (like OCD and addiction). By extension, we can assume it may help the circular limerent thoughts, and the desire to reach out to your LO. I personally found it very helpful, and I know others do too. However, you can’t buy it as a supplement in the UK anymore, because it’s technically a registered medicine for other things (it’s complex). So I can’t strictly recommend it. But if you’re elsewhere and it’s possible for you to get it, you could certainly try it.

Medical disclaimer: I am not a doctor, and these are mere suggestions that do not constitute treatment/professional advice!

In conclusion: limerence Starts to Get Old! It’s Time to Wave Goodbye to Unnecessary Pain

I like to consider recovering from limerence ‘giving yourself your best chance’ in life. And everyone deserves their best chance, you included!

No matter how strong your pull to your LO feels… and no matter how crushing the lows and intense the rumination… you can get over them, forget them, and ensure to avoid future limerent episodes. The trick is to learn how to provide yourself with healthier versions of the fun, blissful, beautiful emotions they initially triggered in you, which got you so addicted in the first place. It really is that simple, although it isn’t always easy – which is why I’ve created all of these resources to support you.

As always, you’re welcome to reach out at neurosparkle@gmail.com. Not a replacement for therapy or medical advice if you require that, but I can answer any questions you may have. 🙂

With love,

Lucy