1. You Know That Real Transformation Is Possible

Achieved This? Achieve Anything

Leaving behind limerence/infatuation for good is contingent on you showing your subconscious mind who’s boss. While this is paradoxically simple once you learn robust techniques that work, it does feel like ‘going against your desires’ initially while you are still under the illusion that your love interest is your ‘soulmate’. But, once you ride out this adaptation stage, your brain rewires to catch up with your new intentions and magic happens -you suddenly no longer find them appealing.

They fade into the background and their name becomes yet another sound. You also blissfully realize that, since you have altered your underlying psychology, you are now also immune to falling for similar people. In other words, you’ve not only shattered the illusion of this current limerent episode but have also guaranteed future you a fulfilling life free of unrequited love.

Besides the obvious benefits (and there are many!), what are the implications of achieving such a transformation and embodying a more confident, unperturbed and self-assured version of you? Well, you’ve shown yourself that you can overcome major psychological obstacles. You now know that you can trust your own word (you said you’d finally commit to emotional expansion, and you have),and, by default, achieve anything that you set your mind to.

How You Do One Thing Is How You Do Everything

While it involves a headstrong, persistent emotional flood, limerence is nothing more than a problematic behavioural pattern that involves addiction, obsession and mania. In many ways, a mentally unwell limerent dealing with crazy highs and lows can be compared to a diabetic sugar addict who eats to comfort himself and then obsesses over doing cardio to counter the calories he’s wracked up, or a Pure-OCD patient who spends their days entirely consumed by contamination-based fears.

I am not suggesting that these conditions present similarly, but rather that they all comprise obsessionality and land the suffer in a sea of delusions (in addition to a very restricted lifestyle). They also all, fortunately, can be overcome permanently when inner belief systems are shifted methodically using techniques that target the subconscious mind.

Therefore, the fact that you have achieved this with regards to limerence/infatuation does not just let you reap rewards in the romantic realm of your life. It also puts you in a wonderful position where you know that seemingly impossible conundrums can invariably be overcome.

Whether you want to engage in lots of exercise that typically tires you out or you wish to complete a novel but find yourself procrastinating, you can remind yourself that you overcame one of the most tenacious psychological afflictions, a.k.a. the addiction to unrequited love. This involved positivity, commitment, faith and discipline, traits that you still have and can (and should) apply to other facets of your life.

2. The Caliber of Your Connections Markedly Improves

It goes without saying that freeing yourself from unrequited love will also liberate you from harmful, unstable, inevitably dead-end romantic situations that you used to entertain (and actively seek). The same people who used to drive you crazy and plunge you into unrequited love and ingratiating pursuit of your goal (i.e. them and their affection) now no longer attract you at all.

When you’re capable of seeing right through the façade that used to lure you in, these people can no longer hit you in any special way; you have healed yourself, rewired your beliefs, transformed your self-image and given yourself what you psychologically need, so they thus have nothing to offer you. The energy dynamics of the situation shift in your favor, and you see them for the normal, messy, even unappealing people that they really are and have always been.

You Get More of What You Embody

Speaking of energetics, you will now be an energetic match for suitable partners: people who are mentally stimulating but stable and deserving of your life. Or, really, partners with whatever combination of desirable traits you want – you are the architect of your own reality and can fine-tune the energy that you emit in order to bring in what you want. This works every time, by the way, and is scientifically-tenable – test it out yourself! You will see how your external reality invariably and impartially reflects your self-concept and what you channel your focus towards.

Platonic Affairs Will Also Go More Smoothly

Since you will be more at ease with who you are and able to view yourself as worthy of love, long gone will the days of being jealous of your friends in healthy relationships. You’ll find yourself able to bond with those close to you to a different, superior degree, also fuelled by the fact that they will see you happier and know that no topics are ‘sensitive no-go areas’. Now capable of asking you about your love life and receiving smiles and self-assured laughter from you (or an exciting tale or two!), they will relish their time with you because it will be less tense and more relaxing and enjoyable.

3. You Become Extremely Analytical, Objective and Sharp

After enduring limerence and recovering, you naturally start to observe people differently. Personality traits that you may once have admired and swept up in vague, intoxicating categories such as ‘exciting’, ‘intense’ and ‘fun’ are now character features that you can put precise labels on and whose less glamorous sides you can clearly see.

With newly attuned senses, freed from the tendency to notice only what you want to in others, you detect shades and nuance. Before, you used to subconsciously assess people’s potential capabilities to make up for your own shortcomings, to soothe your traumas or to meet needs that you were neglecting; in other words, you approached people psychologically and energetically screaming “I want you to make me feel better, forever – you give my life color, so please don’t leave!”.

Now, you are a sparkling, content, robust entity of your own and you seek connection with similarly stable and individualistic people. Long gone are the urgent pangs of desire for proximity and emotional connection with the first unconventional person capable of granting you intensity.

Who Is Your LO, When You Are Free From Limerence?

It just so happens that intensity can wear thin and seem childish when you become someone who no longer needs it to find meaning in life. Suddenly, that guy who used to seem ‘commanding, powerful and a little crazy in a good way (swoon)’ seems blazingly ‘narcissistic’, ‘petty’, ‘spiteful’, ‘malicious’ and likely to ‘have no emotional depth’; you roll your eyes, amused that people like him used to leave you addicted and heartbroken.

Or, the girl whose unpredictable and bold character once made you feel as if you were floating in euphoria might start to just seem ‘flighty’, ‘unstable’ and frankly ‘incompatible’ with the purposeful and driven life that you lead.

Your Reality Is Changeable and Fluid; Change It For The Better!

It’s truly fascinating to see the recategorizing powers of the brain in action. It’s also pretty exciting to realize that, in addition to helping you better read people’s natures and intentions, recovering from limerence makes you generally more perceptive and analytical.