By virtue of the powerful evolutionary forces that have shaped human nature thus far, we are all prone to anxiety, some degree of circular thinking and temporary depressive episodes. If we weren’t capable of occasionally slipping into these emotional states, we simply would not survive – they all serve fundamental evolutionary purposes. And, of course, some of us are more prone to these afflictions than others. Polymorphic genes (which possess different allele variants at the same chromosomal locus) are abundant in the human genome, meaning that great genetic variation is possible. This gives rise to nuanced, exciting differences in our appearances and personalities, bestowing healthy robustness upon us as a species.

However, at a neural level, this degree of inter-individual dissimilarity results in some of us being far more obsessional and prone to rumination than others. In itself, this is not inherently ‘pathological’ or an issue; having an affinity for honing in on certain topics comes with many splendid advantages, enabling you to both a). pull off highly impressive personal and professional achievements and b). live life with a certain emotional richness that someone lacking your ‘intensity’ simply never will.

The Dose Makes The Poison

The issue with exhibiting particularly sharpened, acute forms of these cognitive modalities is that they leave room for you to slide into tricky mental afflictions like limerence (until you become fully cognizant of how your brain works and how to get it to align you with your dream life, that is). Other examples of exaggerated obsessionality that have a genetic basis and render you illusorily convinced that you are ‘helpless’ and forever locked into a pathological behavioural paradigm are anorexia (another extreme example of goal-oriented focus), panic disorder (being, in essence, the obsessive fear of panic itself) and pure OCD.

So, some people are evidently prone to sliding into flavours of obsessionality that prove to be derailing to them, with these mental disorders additionally seeming to pick up negative momentum and worsen if left unchecked. Fortunately, it is really, truly is possible to permanently free yourself from these behaviours and feelings. First, you must completely open yourself up to accepting that modern medicine is not objective truth… nor is it in consonance with the most salient and rigorous scientific findings of the past decade.

Psychiatry is highly misleading, framing these manifestations of obsessionality as intractable, life-long diagnoses – or “mental diseases” – when they are really only transient states that you are prone to. You can learn to slam the door on these states for once and for all, and not through daily willpower (we all know that doesn’t work), but effortlessly and automatically: by simply becoming a version of yourself who isn’t susceptible to the same triggers.

The way to achieve this is, of course, by reprogramming your subconscious mind (read about this process here). This involves meticulously employing the correct techniques to a). decisively draw the line and kill off the depressive, uneasy, reward-seeking version of yourself who experiences limerence while b). actively shaping your belief systems to catapult you towards the expression of yourself that you do want to be. Hint…you can learn to permanently become any version of yourself that you can conceive – do not limit yourself here!

There’s Still Time to Change – So Run

Subconscious mind reprogramming is where true leverage and power lies; effectively, it is what enables you to genuinely feel better and advance towards mental stability, optimism and abundance. Most of us spend much time in limbo, intellectually grasping what limerence is but not viscerally feeling any better. This is because, while conscious mind techniques (i.e. understanding what limerence is, in an objective sense) are highly important in your recovery, you must also reach your subconscious. Albeit unknowingly, you are already always impressing your subconscious mind with beliefs and ideas on a daily basis. Recovering from limerence, and all other forms of extreme obsessionality, is just about learning to do this intentionally.

Believe It Or Not, You Are Blessed

Accepting that your biology tends towards these states, but also realising that truly anyone prone to them can grab the reigns and effectively rewire their brain away from them permanently, is highly empowering and conducive to freedom. Additionally, as I speak about in my book, there are actually marked, tangible benefits to being obsession-prone – I, for one, do not resent having endured limerence all those years ago, as I am now 100% immune to it and able to enjoy the focus, passion, intensity and drive that comes along with this disposition. You should feel blessed to have this mentality; I want you all to realise the enormous potential that you have in starting and seeing through whatever projects you want, influencing the people around you to inspire promising change and carving out the life of your dreams.

Most people around you, even those with very high IQs, don’t possess the inner emotional flame that you do, nor the ability that you have to fixate on things that resonate with you on a sentimental level. In a world full of dreamers who struggle to remain interested and motivated, being able to see things through to their highest form of expression is a true gift. You probably already reap some rewards from being wired the way that you are wired – imagine how your life will be when you eradicate the root causes of limerence, completely leave it behind and dare to fully capitalise on how you have naturally been born?

See through your recovery, as you owe it to yourself. Then, dream big, for the sky will be your limit.