When it comes to recovering from limerence, it’s important to understand that it’s not just about establishing boundaries and cutting ties with your Limerent Object (LO). Although going no contact (NC) can be helpful in some cases, it’s not a guarantee of recovery. In fact, you may even find yourself fantasizing more about your LO in their absence. The key to truly overcoming limerence lies within you, and requires a transformation of your subconscious.
This transformation involves a shift in your deep-rooted self-concept, beliefs about love, yourself, others, and life. It requires you to heal and fully integrate any past traumas, as well as meet your unmet psychological needs. This is what makes limerence less powerful and allows it to fade away.
To start the process, it’s crucial to understand the exact mix of emotions that your LO triggers in you. This can be highly unique to your individual nature and situation, but one thing is for sure – your LO makes you feel a certain way that you like. To truly heal from limerence, you need to work out exactly what that mix of emotions is, down to the finest granularity. And then, you need to give yourself access to those emotions without relying on your LO. This requires self-discovery, self-reflection, and a willingness to face and heal any underlying emotional wounds.
So, this is my earnest reminder to you that healing from limerence is not just about breaking away from your LO. It’s about embarking on a transformative journey of self-discovery, healing, and self-empowerment. With the right tools and techniques, you can reclaim your emotional well-being and let go of your limerent fixation. It’s a challenging but rewarding journey, and one that you’re wholly capable of taking.