Be careful what you allow to occupy your mind, because spiritual leaders profit immensely from capitalizing on your obsessive limerent feelings. By producing twin flame online content and offering coaching on dealing with the runner and chaser dynamics, they are making you feel validated. However, what you don’t realize, in this temporary state of insanity, is that they are also keeping you trapped by rendering it impossible for you to rewire your brain away from limerence.
Blaming someone’s poor emotional boundaries for the generation of your limerence is counterproductive and inaccurate. This is for two reasons: a). the fact that you will never overcome this LO if you fixate on them on any way, and b). the fact that aligning with a toxic LO and falling for them is impossible, and I repeat impossible, if you are not carrying around problematic beliefs imprinted in your subconscious.
The most profound lesson that limerence has taught me is to not buy into crazily strong emotions and worry that they will last forever; intensity doesn’t promise permanence. The reasoning centers of your brain will try with all their might to convince you that you will never forget someone irresistible enough to send you through ecstasy and depression, but that is completely untrue.
The vast majority of the literature on limerence concerns overcoming and fighting the phenomenon as if it were a disease, which feels immensely counterintuitive when the euphoric heights it allows you to climb to are so dizzying. How can it be right to dismiss the opportunity of being with your true soulmate, when so few people thrill you in this way? Why should I label this wonderful, intelligent and enticing person as ‘my LO’ and distance myself from their attention when I have never had such amazing conversations with them?
In this post, I will break down the reasons why nearly everyone with the neural makeup that results in limerence comes to the same conclusion: that it is best to consider limerence something strongly pathological and unwanted, even if you are single and not tied down by children.
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